Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Crush, Sweat & "Just Is" Love

There’re 3 kinds of love. The first is crush. You love someone and he / she never notices. ‘Nuff said. Sweat love is the commonest. That’s the one where you try too hard, give concessions to get it "right" and generally spend hours convincing yourself it is "true" love. The greatest love is "Just Is" which tends to occur naturally. It is the rarest. No adjustment is required. Frequently The Second Lady is behind it. It is the closest thing to experiencing The Second Lady’s full blown love. Some people have experienced an inkling of The Second Lady’s love in a near death experience. Most people never experience the "Just Is" kind of love. If you have "Just Is" all your friends keep asking you very politely "How are things going???" or make comments that "You seem to have changed " . You also have a tendency to go around with a silly face (or slightly out of character face) or smile as you walk down the street whether anyone is around or not. People may avoid you because you appear "strange". "Just Is" love is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

3 comments:

shyloh's poetry said...

Yea, that's it alex, I hope one day to have that "just is" experience. Yea, one day just maybe it will happen in this life time. If not I will wait till the next ha.

Jane said...

Crushes make me go around with a silly smile... Although I love "just is" it feels so right- I hate going after anything but a very wise older brother told me,
"sometimes you have to go after something in order to get what you want"...

Enocia Joseph said...

Oooh, I love this Alex. I was going to write a piece about loving just because but I guess I'll comment here instead.

I find love in families to be based on conditions. I love you because you are my mum, daughter, son, relative, etc. Or I love you because we share beliefs, interests, have a laugh, etc. But that "Just Is" love is something else. It is causeless.

I have experienced "Just is" love once. I knew from the moment I saw him that I loved him just because and I will always love him just because.

Anita Baker sings about this love.

Just Because

When I think about how much I'm loving you
No limitations, no set of regimented rules
I'm amazed how much this love has touched my life
And the commitment that we share is a welcome sacrifice

This must be, sweet fatal attraction
My life-long date with destiny
Love this strong, it just brings out the passion
I never knew was here in me

I love you just because
I love you just because
Just because I do, my darlin'

Emotions more than words can help me say
I love you, baby, just because you're you
Just because you're you

You're a diamond in my mind. a treasure found
A precious gem to me. you're so nice to have around
I'm so glad I took the path that led to this
And it's amazin' loving you, I'm doin' things
I never thought I'd do

I don't know, there ain't no explanation
Of why I'm sharin' love at last this way
I won't try to work out all my reasons
I'II use these words to simply say

I love you just because
I love you just because
Just because I do, my darlin'
Emotions more than words can help me say
I love you, baby, just because you're you

I love you just because
I love you just because
Just because I do, my darlin'
Emotions more than words can help me say
I love you, baby.

Could it be that there's more to this than meets the eye
Maybe that's the reason why
All I know is when I'm in your arms it feels all right
I'II hold you tight and I come alive

I love you just because
I love you just because
Just because I do, my darlin'
Emotions more than words can help me say
I love you, baby, just because you're you

til fade

Thank you Alex.

Love always,
EJ